A Small Saturday Rant

I wonder, when did No become a bad word?

As children we loved it, the way it rolled off the tongue

the power of denying someone 

A stubborn piece of us refused to yield

So we say "NO"

Some were blunt, a simply loud resounding NO!

Some were meek a small no here and there but still it was said

Some were even polite, saying "No thank you"

No matter how it was said it was said.

No we are adults

We actually have the decision making ability to properly say no

When we don't want something we actually know why

we aren't just saying no to say no

And yet we hardly ever say no

We put off saying yes,

We squirm for ways to avoid responding

And sometimes, some people, will say yes

Or make you think they said yes

And when the time comes they bail

Oh, they try to "contact you" 

But really the effort is minimal

And then when you get a hold of them

Their response, 

"Go without me, I've got stuff going on"

Only problem, this was planned for almost a week

there should have been no schedule issues

The simple truth, they never wanted to go

But somewhere along the line No became a bad word

So they are incapable now of using it

There's just one thing these avoiders of no don't realize

They are lying.

Every time you tell someone yes to something you have lied about what you want

True sometimes that can be good, for you.

If it's a service activity and you follow through

great, look at what you've accomplished.

But if you just say yes to avoid hurting their feelings

When you blow them off in the end

That, that hurts about 10 times worse, than being told no ever would.

So go on;

grow a backbone.

And next time someone says, "Hey lets do this"

Just say No, or sorry I don't really want to.

There's lots of ways to say it.

Find one that works for you and use it